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Soccer tryouts:
what parents should know

By Gabe Ramos · U.S. Soccer Coach Educator · Updated November 2026

Tryouts can be stressful, and often more for parents than for players. Here is what usually happens, what coaches are looking for and how to help your child get through it.

The one thing to remember

Your job is to keep it calm. Your child’s job is to work hard and have fun.

What usually happens

Most tryouts run over one or more sessions, with small games and a few activities. Coaches watch with a clipboard, and players may wear numbers. It can feel formal, even for eight-year-olds. Ask the club beforehand what to expect, so it is not a surprise.

What coaches usually look for

Work rate, especially after losing the ball.
Comfort on the ball under pressure.
Decisions: looking up and choosing well.
How they treat teammates.
How they react to a mistake.

How to prepare

Play with a ball in the weeks before, and keep it fun.
Get a good night’s sleep and eat a normal meal.
Arrive early with water and the right gear.
Remind them of one thing they can control, like working hard.

What to say beforehand

Try saying“Have fun out there.”
“Just try your hardest.”
“I love watching you play.”

On the day

Drop them off, and stay out of their eyeline if you can. Do not coach from the side, talk to the coaches during the session or compare notes with other parents. Your child will play better if they are not checking your face.

Waiting for the result

Waiting can be the hardest part. Keep life normal. Avoid guessing out loud about who will make which team. It helps to decide ahead of time what you will do either way, so your child knows they are fine whatever happens.

When the news comes

If it is good news, celebrate. If not, read what to do when your child gets cut. Either way, remember that a team at nine or twelve does not decide what comes next.

Questions parents ask

Should my child do extra training before tryouts?

Some extra time with the ball is fine, if they enjoy it. There is no need to cram.

What if my child is sick on tryout day?

Tell the club as soon as you can. Many will offer another option.

Can I talk to the coach during tryouts?

Save it for afterward, unless there is an emergency.

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Soccer tryouts:what parents should know